As described in On Becoming a Person
By Carl Rogers
The other day, I picked up the following quote from Carl Rogers. His book On Becoming a Person is my bible and lode star. Still is. The author quoting the passage said the Apollonian way describes about one sixth of the general population and anybody else will not understand. So I tried it on Edith, my wife, who said she did understand it but she does not think that way. So there! I want you to have this paragraph because it not only succinctly describes a path in the spiritual life but also gives you four warning flags for when you’re off it. Since I am this kind of guy I find that very useful and I think even if you are not this kind of gal you may find it somewhat helpful. Read slowly and carefully!
“Becoming a person means that the person, knowingly and acceptingly, moves toward being the process which inwardly and actually he is. He moves away from being what he is not, from being a façade. He is not trying to be more than he is, with the attendant feelings of insecurity or bombastic defensiveness. He is not trying to be less than he is, with the attendant feelings of guilt or self-depreciation. He is increasingly listening to the deepest recesses of his psychological and emotional being, and finds himself increasingly willing to be, with greater accuracy and depth, that self which he most truly is.”
(O.K. I know he writes like a male chauvinist but I did not want to mess with the text as he wrote it in the 1950’s. Now that we got that out of the way, maybe you could read it again?)